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The names Berdis Baldwin, Louise Little, and Alberta King might not spark instant recognition. But
they should. They are the women who raised the most prominent civil rights activists in American history: James
Baldwin, Malcolm X, and Martin Luther King, Jr.
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Anna Malaika Tubbs
the three mothers
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Gates scholar, sociology PhD candidate, and author Anna Malaika Tubbs wrote The Three
Mothers to piece together these women’s distinct yet intersecting stories. She explores our tendency to
understand women through the lens of the men in their lives, rather than seeing them for themselves. At the same
time, The Three Mothers is a poetic celebration: of Blackness, womanhood, and how mothers shape the world
by shaping their children.
In this excerpt from the book’s introduction, Tubbs reflects on what makes The Three Mothers
such powerful and personal work.
From The Three Mothers
Writing about Black motherhood while becoming one gave me a much deeper perspective than I had before. As my own life
and body transformed, it became even more important to me to tell Alberta’s, Berdis’s, and Louise’s stories before
they became mothers. Their lives did not begin with motherhood; on the contrary, long before their sons were even
thoughts in their minds, each woman had her own passions, dreams, and identity. Each woman was already living an
incredible life that her children would one day follow. Their identities as young Black girls in Georgia, Grenada, and
Maryland influenced the ways in which they would approach motherhood. Their exposure to racist and sexist violence
from the moment they were born would inform the lessons they taught their children. Their intellect and creativity led
to fostering such qualities in their homes. The relationships they witnessed in their parents and grandparents would
inspire their own approaches to marriage and child-rearing. Highlighting their roles as mothers does not erase their
identities as independent women. Instead, these identities informed their ability to raise independent children who
would go on to inspire the world for years to come.
These women’s lives create a rich portrait of the nuances of Black motherhood. Yes, all three were mothers of sons who
became internationally known, and their stories share many similarities, but by no means can their identities be
reduced into one. Each woman carried different values, faiths, talents, and traumas. I hope their rich differences
will open our eyes to the many influences and manifestations of Black motherhood in the United States and beyond.
The narratives of these three women have fueled and empowered me, but this work has been extremely difficult at times.
Black motherhood in the United States is inextricable from a history of violence against Black people. American
gynecology was built by torturing Black women and experimenting on their bodies to test procedures. J. Marion Sims,
known as the father of American gynecology, developed his techniques by slicing open the vaginal tissues of enslaved
women as they were held down by force. He refused to provide them with anesthesia. François Marie Prevost, who is
credited with introducing C-sections in the United States, perfected his procedure by cutting into the abdomens of
laboring women who were slaves. These women were treated like animals and their pain was ignored.
There is a paradoxical relationship between the dehumanization we Black women and our children face and our ability to
resist it. Beyond the normal worries all mothers encounter as they progress through pregnancy and get closer to their
labors, we Black mothers are aware that we are risking our lives. Black women in the United States are more likely to
die while pregnant and while giving birth than other mothers. Beyond the normal fear that all mothers feel when the
gut-wrenching thought of losing their child creeps its way into their minds, we Black mothers experience a heightened
level of worry. We are aware of how differently our children are seen and treated in society, and our fears are
confirmed by articles and news stories reporting the violence that Black children experience constantly, whether at
parties, in school, or at their local parks. This fear continues as our children become adults who are in danger even
as they sleep in their beds, sit in their own apartments, when they call for help, or when they go on a run.
Louise, Berdis, and Alberta were well aware of the dangers they and their children would be met with as Black people
in the United States, and they all strove to equip their children not only to face the world but to change it. With
the knowledge that they themselves were seen as “less than” and their children would be, too, the three mothers
collected tools to thrive with the hopes of teaching their children how to do the same. They found ways to give life
and to humanize themselves, their children, and, in turn, our entire community. As history tells us, all of their sons
did indeed make a difference in this world, but they did so at a cost. In all three cases, the mothers’ worst fears
became reality: each woman was alive to bury her son. It is an absolute injustice that far too many Black mothers
today can say the same thing.
In the face of such tragedy, each mother persisted in her journey to leave this world a better place than when she
entered it. Yet their lives continued largely to be ignored. When Malcolm X was assassinated, when Martin Luther King,
Jr., was killed shortly after, and even when James Baldwin died from stomach cancer years later, their works were
rightly celebrated, but virtually no one stopped to wonder about the grief their mothers were facing. Even more
painful to me is the fact that their fathers were mentioned, while their mothers were largely erased.
I chose to focus on mothers of sons. Black men were certainly not the only leaders of the civil rights movement;
mothers of revolutionary daughters have also been forgotten. I simply chose three figures who are often put in
conversation together and who demonstrate the distressingly strong erasure of identity in the mother/son relationship.
Coincidentally, I gave birth to a boy, my incredible little boy, and I have already faced others’ attempts to erase my
influence on his identity. Phrases like “He’s strong, just like his father!” or “He’s already following in his dad’s
footsteps” when he reaches a milestone cause more harm than people think. By choosing three mothers of sons, I do not
want to erase daughters or other children. I am instead making the point that no matter our gender, everything starts
with our birthing parent.
In telling the stories of these three mothers, I hope to join others who have responded to Brave’s call for “Black
women to carry out autonomously defined investigations of self in a society which through racial, sexual, and class
oppression systematically denies our existence….” It is crucial to understand the layers of oppression Black
women face, while remembering that solely studying oppression keeps us from honoring “the ways in which we have
created and maintained our own intellectual traditions as Black women.” I pay close attention to this balance and bear
witness to the many challenges Berdis, Alberta, and Louise faced while acknowledging their ability to survive, thrive,
and build in spite of them.
Louise, Berdis, and Alberta were all born within six years of each other, and their famous sons were all born within
five years of each other, which presents beautiful intersections in their lives. Because they were all born around the
same time and gave birth to their famous sons around the same time, and two of them passed away around the same time,
I reflect on Black womanhood in the early 1900s, Black motherhood in the 1920s, and their influence on the civil
rights movement of the 1960s. The first of the three mothers was born in the late 1890s, and the last of the three
passed in the late 1990s. Their lives give us three incredible perspectives on an entire century of American history.
By seeing the United States develop through the lives of Berdis, Alberta, and Louise, you will be left with a richer
understanding of each world war, the Great Depression, the Great Migration, the Harlem Renaissance, race riots, police
brutality, welfare debates, the effects of policies proposed by each president they lived to witness, and much more.
But their stories go beyond a new understanding of American history, especially the civil rights movement of the
1960s. An ode to these three women is an ode to Black womanhood—perhaps Black women of today will also be able to find
themselves in the life stories of Berdis, Alberta, and/or Louise, as I have.
Excerpted from The Three Mothers. Copyright © 2021 by Anna Malaika Tubbs. Excerpted by Permission of Flatiron Books, a division of Macmillan Publishers. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.
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